submissive thoughts ...
and the fragrance of your flowers,
and the passionate wonder of your forest,
for a creed that would not let you dance?
For reason that seems to escape me, i found putting thoughts about myself down on paper, to be most difficult. While i have strong views on the ideology of the D/s lifestyle, it has been a challenge to atriculate ideas concerning my submissiveness.
Reflecting on the past 30 some years, i have tried to pinpoint just when i came to the realization that i had submissive traits in my personality. While no one moment comes to mind, i cannot remember a time when i wasn't motivated by a desire to please. It seemed not to matter who the recipient, but my own satisfaction and pleasure was rooted in knowingly pleasing others. Perhaps not until i met my Master, did the pieces start falling into place and an the overwhelming sense of understanding engulf me. Of course, with understanding, brought a greater thirst and desire for knowledge, in essence to achieve a level of comprehension in which there were no longer questions, only answers. At this point, the door was open.
The submissive nature is something that i see all around. There are leaders and there are followers. Yet, to openly acknowledge yourself as submissive, garners negative opinions and judgement. People are speculative and suggest that only an individual who lacks both self-esteem, and self-respect would ever submit to another. They diagnois that one would do this in order to make themselves feel appreciated - thus basing their sense of value through their role in anothers life. They are in fact, living for someone other than themselves. While this may be true for many individuals entering into the D/s lifestyle, they will likely find within only a temporary solution to their problem. In fact, the majority of Masters will lack the understanding and ability to aid a submissive in realizing her self-worth and the relationships will likely end in disappointment. For any woman or man who enters into a D/s relationship, they must know that self-esteem comes only from within, through the goals and standards set for themselves. No one gives it to them - hence the term "self-esteem".
In my mind, submission to another shows great strength, belief in one's self, and respect for that which should be the foundation of any committed relationship - trust, love, communication and mutual respect. Why so many fail to relate these characterists to a D/s relationship, is one of those answers i seek to find.
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